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You might notice the tagline of this page reads “a bog from life’s dusty crossroads.” It is no mistake, but the result of a fortuitous slip of a finger made while describing this space via email to a list of lovely women that I have the pleasure to know.

My first encounter with a bog was when Dixie Rose beckoned to me to see an interesting plant. Forever seeking the most direct route, I accidentally plunged neck-deep into a spongy, stinking mess. I recall rather vociferously proclaiming my displeasure.

Okay, so it may only have been knee-deep. I was four, Dixie, an avid naturalist, birder, photographer and writer, was about 104, with thick glasses and the kind of dusty, stacked library that would cause a bibliophile to swoon. Her husband, Ed, seemed about 110 to me, a tall man whose battle with cancer had left him with an electronic voice box. Ed was straight-out and as gracious as the petals of his last name.

Since then, I have had a predilection for mire. My last encounter spanned almost twenty years, and is currently working itself out in the form of  divorce. If there is muck in my general vicinity, I will most likely, sooner or later, find myself face down in it.

But let’s not be hasty. Bogs can be interesting places. Pretty rugged things live in bogs, things that don’t need a lot of nutrients, things that can live in acidic environments. No chaff here.

Bogs also fix, or hold, about one-quarter of the carbon outputs harbored on land – another one of those “sinks.” So that crummy stuff we don’t want to breathe, that we don’t want in our environment, is happy to find a home in a bog.

And better still, as a wetland, a bog is a process. In the proper inhospitable conditions it takes in the strange, the stinky and the scorched and, over a great deal of time, can eventually produce good stuff – nutrient rich stuff – that feeds the things we grow and makes a pretty nice fire.

Plus, you never know what you might find in a bog. Those acidic, nasty conditions can preserve things quite well. Dating from 3,000 BC, the Ceide Fields in North Mayo, Ireland, were preserved under a peat bog, a Neolithic treasure for modern man. I think bogs preserve a lot of that old stuff, maybe not always Neolithic – maybe just thirty-or-so odd years back – slowly being turned into energy, and worth uncovering from time to time – especially if you happen to find yourself face down in it.

So you see, a bog can be a special place, hence my tagline. Dixie Rose is long gone, Ed passed on before she did. Dixie could stand the muck, she found the most beautiful things in it. I do my best. Here’s to you Dixie.

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I bonded with my kitchen sink this morning. American Standard, porcelain, two basins, nothing fancy and definitely not new – something like me.

Sinks. To “sink,” is to “become submerged,” or “go under.” A cavity, a reservoir that holds – like a carbon sink – until it is time to move on. Or that “sinking feeling,” when your energy seeps away from a disturbing sight.

Sinks are located in the kitchen, the most popular place at a party and a place where food is grubbed, cooked and primped. Sinks are the things that generally hold what is done, unlike the refrigerator, that holds things that are waiting.

Before dishwashers, dishes shrugged their debris off in sinks and emerged clean again. Sometimes they still do. Sinks can hold different forms – dishes, foods, liquids, a shoe – now and then – that needs to be scrubbed.

Sinks seem pretty solid. They can take the messy stuff, what’s too hot, and what’s too cold, what’s been used up. A bit like a good friend who can handle what you’ve got. I’m grateful for my sink.

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You know – the reason why I decided to start this blog, the hair salon.

The lovely young woman at the check-in desk was casting envious sidelong glances at the bride. The bride, having her hair arranged for her wedding that day, was aglow. Partly from the deep tan (likely obtained from the tanning salon down the sidewalk) but mostly, because it was her big day.

“Brent,” a good friend, rushed in with the veil to be attached to the circlet, saving the day.

The mother, tired, pleased and looking on. The bridesmaid, chatty with gravity-defying beautiful hair.

There is something about a bride — something that gives anyone pause, even if you have no relation to the wedding party. Is it the thrill of the arrangements, the ritual of passing from one identity to another, the “special day?”

Or is it the secret knowledge held by married folks that, despite this luminous moment, neither the bride nor the groom, have any idea what they are getting themselves into?

Nonetheless, older women around the salon smile and watch – grandmothers, children, the middle-aged – happy for her excitement, for her future, whatever it brings her.

Hair salons, mostly women, a niche in a strip mall in Anytown, USA. Walls come down, hair goes up, a society of both superficial and profound understanding – a society of high heel boots tucked into tight jeans, of highlighted, choppy, breathtaking hair.

Women getting married, women round in pregnancy, the women with a two-month old who speaks in a strong voice that breastfed babies are whiney and learn to be manipulative. Later, she’s gone. Her stylist whispers, “she’s from California originally.” “Oh,” I say, now sharing in the secret cause of it all.

Tools for cutting hair, a place to land for awhile, to focus on looks instead of life. Somehow life still manages to work its way in.

Hair salons are deceptively simple, complicated places. Of hair and days that have become untidy, to be cut and styled to grow again.

Yes, that’s what did it, the hair salon.

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